How much do you watch porn?

Do you only watch porn when you want to "get off"?

When you climax in the middle of watching porn, do you finish the video?

If you do finish the video, why? 

We watch our friends or idols on OnlyFans.

We follow our favourite porn star on Instagram and Twitter.

We watch our favourite genres of porn when we need a release from a stressful day.

But porn isn't an exciting topic for some people. 

Some of us are survivors of revenge porn, child porn, assault that's related to porn...

For some, porn has "ruined" our relationships.

For some, porn has been an incredible opportunity to connect to lovers, or more importantly, to ourselves. 

Pornography has been the main sex ed teacher for many of us. How has that impacted the way you have sex? 

Many femmes feel the pressure to have slender, arching backs and delicate, hairless butt holes. There is an expectation that when a femme has sex with a masculine person, the masc person is entitled to cum in the femmes mouth, on their belly, inside them (if having penetrative sex). Femmes should have tiny waists, perky breasts, big eyes and a small vulva that can house a large member... How realistic is this? 

Masc people are expected to dominate the bedroom by throwing their partner around the bed, against walls, on kitchen counters. They're supposed to have the physical stamina of an athlete, while ensuring their member is constantly ready to play. If a masc person climax's in less than, say, 10 minutes, they're in trouble: With their partner, amongst their friends and psychologically ("why couldn't you stay hard?! We have been training for this! You had to blow it, literally, within two minutes - they're never going to want to see you again").

For non-binary folks, the sexual expectations are vague. Act like a woman: Moan, squirt, wiggle and squirm in ecstasy? Act like a man: Have incredible strength, know every move before it's made and never show emotions other than anger or joy?

We can't forget: If real-life sex is anything like porn, you are always horny. Especially around your step siblings.  

 

"I saw my first porn movie when I was 10 or 11. It was what came on the VHS tape I'd rented from the local mom-and-pop store after the kung-fu movie I'd just watched. It was a woman having a threesome with two men. I was curious and aroused and kept watching. My dad heard the noises and walked into the room, freaking out on the rental store threatening them in all sorts of ways. Needless to say, I wasn't allowed back in that store. But my curiosity in explicit sexual content was peaked forever. I've consumed porn in one form or another for most of my life. My relationship with it has changed over the years and is more complex than black or white. I've gotten a lot of pleasure and inspiration from it. I've learned some great tricks. It's my most reliable sleep aid, which is an invaluable tool for someone struggling with insomnia. I've also been horrified by things I've seen in porn. And I have at times felt like I'm spending too much time watching porn and masturbating. What's your relationship with porn been?" - Dr. Zhana

For some trans people and POC, porn can be damaging. For some cis white people, porn is the closest interaction they have ever had with these communities. And because porn is designed to be entertainment, not education, it can create and reinforce harmful stereotypes that get perpetuated outside of pornography. 

Porn has touched all of our lives; whether it's bookmarked webpage, a monthly subscription, pop-up ads or our everyday reality... It's here and it's here to stay.

What has porn done for you?

Or to you?

Has porn improved your sex life?

Has it made your sex life worse?

What have you learned from porn?

Has porn been educational for you?

Has porn ever helped you heal from trauma?

Has porn ever caused you trauma?  

This is Uncensored. 

Experience it for yourself... if you're ready. 

Or keep watching, my precious voyeur, from the sidelines. 

We will be here, getting better and better with each event. 

Until next time and with love, 

Femmeish Feminist

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